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Hi I'm Shazie, a mindset + self-love coach ♥ I'm a West Coast-turned-East Coast girl, so naturally I'm conflicted between Dunkin vs Starbs. Thank you for stopping by, and I hope you stick around♥
5 Tips on Setting Boundaries (& Why It's Important!)
It has been a while since I last blogged and to be honest, I’VE MISSED IT. I honestly went down a rabbit hole of feeling like I needed to have some “first page on Google” worthy post, but it defeats MY entire point of having a blog in the first place. In fact, it felt like I was losing myself.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m here for SEO because hello, I’d love to have as many eyes on here as possible, but I’ve definitely fallen farrrr away from my personal mission of writing from the heart and speaking to those who might appreciate what I have to say. I posted on Instagram stories a few months ago about how creating content became a chore to me because I felt like every piece needed to have purpose… and I felt the same way about my blog.
So naturally, I hid from my blog. Heck – I didn’t even LOOK at my own website because it was a reminder of everything I was running away from. I wanted to write whatever was on my mind and not because it had all the Google-worthy tips and tricks, you know?
Last year, I was part of a 6-month mastermind with amazing women with thriving businesses and while that was all wonderful, I got distracted and lost sight of my purpose (sense a theme here?).
I felt like everything that I put out needed to be strategic. I lost my heart + soul in trying to keep up with the trends, making reels, ensuring my posts are SEO-friendly, prioritizing call-to-actions on my posts rather than inviting authentic conversations, and so forth. It all became so rigid… so unlike me.
So I took a back seat in Q4. I journaled, meditated, and looked more inwardly.
Why did I start blogging? What brings me joy about creating content? What do I love about sharing mindfulness tips?
So here I am now, typing this on a sick day (yes I’m sick and for some reason, I’m here typing lol) because it somehow called to me to just write and spill whatever has been on my heart and mind.
If you’ve been feeling the same way about your content or how you’ve been showing up in spaces, I hope this post encourages you that YOU are enough.
The stories you post, the reels you create, the captions you write — they don’t always need to have powerful message from the Universe.
Now that social media has become a huge wave that we’re all riding on, it’s easy to lose sight of who we are on an individual level. Who here has fallen victim to scrolling for hours, seeing a theme in posts, and then creating posts after that suddenly seem pretty similar because subconsciously, you started absorbing what you were consuming?
That has and continues to happen to me… which is fine when it comes to trends, but at what point do we pause and be like, “HOLD UP, this isn’t me?”
Example – I love those vibe-y aesthetic reels. You know what I’m talking about. The one with the whole “I just woke up and about to make my beautiful bed, make some yummy frothy coffee and begin my day with a hot girl walk” vibe.
As much as I’d love to be vibe-y like that, it isn’t realistic for me… which brings me to my next point of how much of ourselves are we losing to a world of digital content? A world where we have to make everything super aesthetic in order to be recognized and celebrated?
And don’t get me wrong – I love the aesthetics… but not at the expense of me losing the message I am trying to convey, you know? I was getting caught up with the “pretty” that I lost the “worthy” aka lost myself.
So, let’s see this post as my comeback post. The one where I give zero fucks about how this looks. The one where I focus on empowering ourselves to just do the damn thing, to be loud and proud about our messaging, to OWN our badass power.
We don’t have to perfect online OR in real life. We don’t need to continuously scan our drafts to make sure our emails are error-free. We don’t need to spend hours curating beautiful posts to be deemed worthy of posting. We don’t need to blend in with what’s trending in order to be noticed.
In this space, between you and I, you are always welcome to be as you are and that is more than enough. In a world where spaces cultivating authenticity tend to be limited, I hope you can create one for yourself.
Because that’s what I’m doing here. My blog and online space is now morphing into that space for me… and if you’re having trouble cultivating that for yourself, no worries, I got you.