Quick straight to the point post here because I’ve been seeing a lot of self-bashing (and women bashing) lately and I simply cannot stay speechless.

That’s right. It’s time to stop investing so much time and energy on others and start working on ourselves.

I know I know. It’s tough sometimes. We live in a weirdly interconnected yet disconnected world, meaning we have everyone’s lives at our fingertips… which brings me to my next point.

We talk. And we talk… and then talk some more.

Trust me I’m no saint, but I’ve definitely made some progress circa 2014 when I became a big girl and started at CSUN. (College changed me? LOL).

No, but really though. I’m tired of seeing people focus so much on everything else but themselves. Everyone’s lives are SO different. To have this misconstrued illusion that everyone else’s lives parallel yours is only going to BURY you.

And can we PLEASE discuss women bashing women? I’m over it. It’s old news.

Let’s stop wasting time and begin shifting our mental paradigm in an instant!

Eliminate GOSSIP

Clutter, chit chat, clutter. Get rid of it, pronto.

All those minutes we spend gossiping about others hinder our ability to focus on the big picture: ourselves. Instead of bad-mouthing others, let’s vow to inspire and empower! Yes or yes?! Plus, I believe it’s time to discuss IDEAS now, not people. Let’s make that a trend 🙂

#EmpowerOthers #BashingOthersIsNOTOkay

Stop comparing yourself

Okay okay, I admit – GUILTY. While I’m still working on it, I’ve come a long way. I used to force myself to detox from social media, and now I simply detox because I want to! Realize that beauty in others does not mean absence in yours. I cannot emphasize this enough. There is always going to be someone who’s prettier/smarter, etc but no one will ever be YOU. So just own that identity. Everyone’s different and for as long as you’re stuck playing that comparison game, you’re never going to fully accept yourself… which in turns repels others to do the same.

Set goals… and act on them

My to-do list is ridiculously absurd as I have probably the same 3 things on my list, and that’s the thing – I plan on keeping it that way. I’d rather plan on something more attainable that I personally KNOW I’m going to act upon rather than adding things to my lists only to be overwhelmed and leaving it all… undone. Once we begin listing SMART goals, we’re most likely going to succeed in accomplishing what we truly want. Read “The One Thing” if you haven’t already.

Don’t dwell/feel sorry for yourself

When the going gets tough, don’t dwell on the negativity. This goes back to tip #2 and not comparing yourself to others. Yes, we all go through unfortunate events, but redirecting your focus on your gratitude list is key to helping you stay committed to who you are. Trust yourself in knowing you will get through this setback. Remember when you feel like you’re on rock bottom, there’s no way to go but UP.

Say NO

I’m all for #TeamYES, but know when to say no. Know when to choose your own priorities over others, and stop worrying about what others are going to think or feel. I’m all for being people-sensitive, but what’s the point if you lose yourself in the process? Take on a passion project (like a blog or YouTube channel!), and stream your creativity through there. Once you begin to pursue a passion project, I promise you you’ll feel much more fulfilled in your own life to worry too much about others.

Overall, CONFIDENCE is key. Yes, that’s a line between cocky and confidence but if the cards are played right, you’ll lead a life full of your utmost potential. Don’t focus too much on your blind spots. Just keep driving… after all, you’re the one in control. Take the steering wheel and stay in your lane. After all, you wouldn’t want to be a passenger in your own vehicle 🙂